I am a 13 year old bisexual teenaager. I recently told two of my friends. I was scared of telling them because at our age, they had probably only seen a distorted version of what bisexuality is on television. We had never really talked about LGBT+ issues - it just wasn't a normal topic of conversation. We assumed that everyone we know is straight and straight only. Their reactions were expected, one of them, let's call her Bella, freaked out. I told her over text as I knew otherwise I would get scared. She first thought I was joking, that telling her was a dare, because of course. Then she acted like she was completely fine with it, she brushed it off, made it seem unimportant. Eventually, she cracks, like I knew she would, and drowns me in questions, she is shaking, she is in utter shock. The next day, we don't talk about it. I say something about it and she brushes it off. She was and still is in denial. Even now, we have only talked about it once, when I confronted her, for about two seconds. Looking back on it now, I feel angry. Angry about her reaction. She made it all about herself, how she was feeling, never once thinking about how I might be feeling, how I might feel knowing my sexual orientation is making someone so close to me shake and nearly start to cry. Then she ignores it. Because ignoring it is easier. Easier than facing the fact that shocker, I am bisexual, that that is not going to change. My other friend was supportive and nice and I love her for that. But we still don't talk about it. I don't feel comfortable with talking about it to them because I can tell they are uncomfortable.
Why is straight the default sexual orientation? Why is cisgender the default gender? Why are children not told that it's okay not to fit in that box? Why don't schools educate their students about the LGBT+ community? I want that to change. I want everyone to be educated about the LGBT+ community, I want everyone to know they don't have to hide, they don't have to be ashamed. I realised I was bisexual around 11 years of age. People tell you you don't know at that age, but if that's true, how does anyone know they're straight or cisgender? Schools now don't acknowledge their LGBT+ students, they don't make them feel valued or understood, they may even tell them they should be ashamed of who they are. Bullying because of sexual orientation or gender identity is commonplace and not addressed. Schools aren't inclusive of LGBT+ people, even in their sex education. It is just blatantly wrong and discriminatory that heterosexual people are the only ones to receive proper sex education. It shows that schools think heterosexuals sexual health is more important than that of others. I want to make a change. I want people in the LGBT+ community to get the same treatment as heterosexual and cisgender people. And education from a young age will be a step closer to reaching equality. Acknowledgement is the first step.